Friday, April 29, 2011

This is the Greatest....

That I have felt in freakin' 3 months!  No joke- and it's all thanks to one great individual.

Isn't it weird how just one person can complete your whole life?  Well- this person does. And I am extremely grateful for their friendship, honesty, and loyalty.  I knew that without this person... life would truly be a living hell right now.
You know who you are. :-)

Anyway- on that happy note, is an update!  I haven't updated since freaking Monday (MY bad)! So now, it's a Friday update. =) Dad has dialysis today... we all know how that goes afterward.  He'll be tired/etc. BUT, I am looking forward to possibly participating in a family event after he's rested up and all tomorrow.  How wonderful would that be? I THINK SO!
Then, if all goes well- I'll be out of my parents' hair at a "girls night" with my BEST FRIEND in the whole entire universe. :)
Yay for a happy update!

This is Wendy Renee (AKA) Lola B signing off for the night.
Goodnight, everyone, and take care! <3

Monday, April 25, 2011

Random Blogging Time!

Hey all!

This is me... yet again for a second time today trying out the new features that this website has to offer for my blogging.  YAY. What fun.  Anywhoo.... today hasn't been the best of days for the Berry family.
Dad's feeling like giving up... but then he says he can't and doesn't want to yet.... so when we think he's at his end, he actually isn't- and... ughhhhh. Yeah. SUCK. It sucks... in general.  I know the time will come- but my GOD I hate not knowing when exactly that time will be.

I have been growing stronger into my Catholic faith- that's the good side of all of this.  Easter Mass was... interesting to say the least bit.  It was freaking PACKED... I felt very claustrophobic, and like a sardine in a fish can.  NOT the best feeling in the world... trust me.  I seriously needed out of there after an hour and fifty five minutes, and I needed out... fast! I mean, an hour and fifty five minutes? What the frick is up with that?! Bah. No way. So yeah! :) Crazy.  I cannot believe it is almost frickin' May! I mean, really? WHERE does the time go?
*Shakes head.*
Sometimes I question my sanity and random thoughts... hehe. ;) (joke, people... joke). It's a mondo joke. Anyway.... 


Kenzie and I are super close... it's a great thing.  She's like my older sister! I'm her lil, and her Lola, while she is my Ray*Ray.... DON'T ask... (inside joke). ;)  I love spending like, practically every day with her- even if it's just for a few hours.  Her being my neighbor is the best thing that's happened to me.  It's great to have such a wonderful friend- especially now.

Well... it's off to bed. (HA... more like attempted sleep). Anyway, I love you all and hope that you have a fantastic week!

<3

-Wendy Renee Berry

WHY THE HELL Can't someone be here for us? For me...?!

God Bless America.... I'm going to go fucking insane!
This is the WORST.
Yes- you heard me.
Dad has been going WAY downhill since Saturday...
He's been coughing up blood, too weak to move by himself without my mom or I's guidance... ugh. (*Screams every profanity I can think of*)!!!!!!!!!!!!

God! It's not fair. He has been talking about understanding what the doctors meant by just wanting to give up... he's wanting to give up. Not this second... but soon. It's "the beginning of the end." I can't frickin' handle it... I really can't. The anti-depressants won't touch me... Nothing will at this point. It's to the point where I'm broken, and nothing can mend me. I feel sick... nauseous... mad... scared... hurt and confused.
The pit of my stomach hurts! It's hollow.... and I feel like I can't breathe. That's why I can't cry.... even though I want to so badly- I already have a bit this morning.

I don't want it to be the end..... PLEASE don't be the end.
I know it's been three months already... but please, God... don't let it be over- not yet.


-WRB

Sunday, April 24, 2011

Relay (Yet Another VERY SPECIAL free-verse poem) April, 2011

Relay



It was overcast and cloudy

When I got off that bus- the wind was blowing

Anxiety coursed throughout my body-

It HAD been a 5 hour ride home.

Then...

I saw my mother

Looking tired and scared.

Relay




He has cancer

Stage Four...

And it has reached his liver.

The doctor's sad face

Tells me...

It won't be much longer.

Three to six months.

Relay




Endless tears

Unanswered questions

Why him?

Why now?

Why cancer?

Had he ever done anything wrong?

No.... nothing wrong at all.

Relay



Recurring nightmares

Your body shaking so badly

You think that you'll break down.

But that's what scares you the most.

Never the one to open up easily...

You have finally changed that.

You have a voice... and it must be heard.

Relay




Hope finds your heart

Makes you finally smile.

You know what you have to do...

What you want to do-

For him...

And every other victim of cancer.

This WILL be done.

Relay




June 10th

Not knowing if he'll still be here.

You hold your head high

Knowing that you've made the right decision.

You're a woman on a mission

A daughter with a goal

With a burning desire.

Relay For Life




-Wendy R. Berry

Friday, April 22, 2011

Yet Another Entry... (No one cares anyway).

I'm calling out to you.
Why can you not hear me?
I am crying endless tears
Why won't you comfort me...
Tell me it's alright?

I'm falling apart inside
These feelings-
I can just no longer hide.
It's the hardest thing to do.
To smile, and act though it's all okay.

It's not okay.
As he's dying
I myself am, too.
God never told me
Just how cruel this world can be.

I need a hug.
I need comfort.
Can't you hear me cry out?
Where are you?
Why have you forsaken me?

Did I ever do anything wrong?
Anything at all?
No? Well- then I need you!
I need you now....
And I need you forever.

You're slipping away from me.
Out of my reach, into the darkness.
I'm crying for you...
For all that cannot be.
For all that I am going to miss.

When I will get married someday
You will watch from high above.
Not from a balcony- but heaven.
With all the sweet angels
And the God who I know loves me, too.

I am your daughter
Everytime I would fall
You were there to catch me.
You're my everything...
My life. My Bear.

<3

You Want to Know More About Me...? (Read This)

Musician

You feel that instantaneous rush
Front row, middle of the stage.
Your hands begin to shake
All the while, you question your confidence.
Can I do this?
What if I screw up?
One tiny little squeak or missed note
You feel like that would be the end of everything.
But it's not.

The music has the power to break you
It mends your broken, still beating heart
You let it take over your whole body-
Even if that wonderful feeling only lasts an hour.
It may sometimes even last two.
Those long Jazz Band Gigs
They always bring out the best in you.

The mellow vibrato of the tenor saxophone
It soothes you instantaneously
While at the same time, you think to yourself:
Is this gorgeous sound really coming from me?
Is it possible that I can relax everyone else, too?
It is possible- even if some others don't believe it.
It's because the music grabs you- and takes you as its prisoner.

Music gets you through the best of times.
Music gets you through the worst of times.
Music gets you through the times when you just want to cry, and give up.
It gets you through the fact that your father is suffering from cancer
While you and your mother fight to hold the tears back
Staying strong for your family- and for him.

The Music runs in your blood.
Your father was a musician.
Your dear "Gram" plays the organ and piano- even when she's blind.
Your Grandfather... though a total jerk- was also a musician-
Known throughout Portland Oregon in the 50's and 60's.
Now.... it's been passed down through blood to you.... you cannot escape it. It's your talent- your heart... your Major. It is the one thing that helps keep you sane and in control of everything.

The "you" that this music takes a hold of... is actually me. Music- just for a moment, is my reality.
I am a Musician.


-Wendy R. Berry

Thursday, April 21, 2011

Holy Week... And Easter- WOOHOO!

So much goes on during a week! WOW! :D

Okay first point:
It's Holy Week. For all of you Non-Catholics, it's pretty much the week prior to Easter Sunday when we celebrate Jesus Christ's foot washing of the disciples, and Last Supper (Holy Thursday... AKA today), Good Friday- When Jesus was condemned, and sentenced to crucifixion. Then there's the Easter Vigil on Saturday- when all the candidates for baptism get baptized into the Faith. It's a great night! Then, finally on Sunday- it is Easter, and the resurrection of Jesus Christ.
Pretty much... epic, epic, EPIC week! :) It's always my fave to celebrate... and anticipate all the way up to Easter Sunday. It's just a joyful week. :) Well- mostly- because we all know what happens on Easter- what HAPPENED on Easter. It's not all about chocolates, present giving, etc. Nope...

It's all about our Lord and Savior, Jesus the Christ... King of Nazareth. :)

Anyway- it's been fantastic. =] Beyond. Dad's doing well today and has been all week. I have my scholarship reception tomorrow night (bummer, considering it's freaking GOOD FRIDAY), but hey. :) It's worth it. I'm excited.

Take care, everyone, and HAPPY EASTER! =]
<3

-Wendy R. Berry

Tuesday, April 19, 2011

Why am I NOT Going to Bed Yet...?!

That's a pretty dang good question....
I guess today has been so eventful, that I just can't sleep. (Not really, I'm being sarcastic, I'm a total insomniac).

I DID work on some Relay luminaries some more though... hoping more people will be willing to spare just 5 bucks so that I can come up with even more creative fun! :)

I spent practically all day with Kenzie... I swear- that girl is like my older sister! She's soooo fun to be with, and we find humor in EVERYTHING. (Ahem, a mistaken identity crisis, a horse licking my hand, random "ghosts" at Fruitland High School late in the evening...) Ahhh yes. This is why I love this girl. I'm so grateful that we've bonded even closer these past few years, and that she's now my neighbor. (Literally- she lives like... 3 minutes from me)! What can I say... she's my "lover." ;) (Though I am NOT a lesbian... let's get that straight). It's an inside joke.

ANYWAY. I still cannot stop reading "Revolution." It's nice to have an escape, and to just read, and read, and realize that the plot and story are so good that you CAN'T stop! It's my favoritest (Word? Whatever! It's my word now! Kinda like "Changilize.") thing in the world. I cannot worry about grammar right now and be the "grammar nazi." It's getting late, and I SHOULD attempt to sleep. After all, I have a new day ahead of me, and I plan to tackle it head-on. Nothing stopping me- or blocking me. Tomorrow is also a dialysis day, so I hope that I can go to the Apple Bin with my daddy after dialysis. (HOPE). :)

That's all for now, everyone. MUCHO, mucho loves!

<3

-Wendy R. Berry

Monday, April 18, 2011

Great News! I am SO Frickin' Ecstatic! :D

Okay... I am so happy, I could freaking flip out. :-)
Tonight's gig rocked the house.... my dad was able to make it (in a wheelchair, but HELL- he was THERE... that is all that matters)! :D

Relay stuff is going pretty dang well... I have at least 100 bucks or so total from donations. It means the world to me that so many people care so much about our family! <3 Thank you.

Our jazz band did SO well tonight, that we don't have class on Wednesday, but rather Thursday- so I get two days off this week. FUN! :D

I'm currently reading the book "Revolution" by Jennifer Donnelly. It. Is. FANTASTIC!! It's historical fiction, and crosses paths between the lives of Andi, a young rebellious musician, and Alexandria- a teenager the same age as Andi living during the French Revolution.

I won't give all the details away but I will tell you this: it's a GREAT read so far, and is like... 500 pages total, with 14 chapters. I'm on Chapter 10 already. ;-) <3

Anyway, that is all for now! MUCHO loves to everyone! Keep the faith, and the prayers!

<3

-Wendy R. Berry

Sunday, April 17, 2011

Why I am Catholic... This is my Testimony.

As most of you know, I was baptized into the Catholic faith when I was only seven years old, back in 1998. I was young, cute, full of life, and attended St. Peter's Catholic School.

Prior to all of this- my parents... had seperate religions that were completely opposite to each other. Mom followed the ways of my grandma's faith, and my Dad- Well... he was the odd one out of the basket, choosing to be Jewish.

When I started attending St. Peter's for a "better education" as my parents called it at the time, they grew interested in the Catholic faith- actually truly interested.
I was taught Religion every other day, and attended Mass with the whole school (staff included) on Friday mornings. I was... growing into the faith, you could say. I remember at the time that I wanted to be a Catholic- and that's what I told my parents.
Now, I don't know how it all came about to us all getting baptized... I was only seven after all.

But I do know this...
It was the best decision that my parents made for me. I was seven, I really had no say in it at the time. But wow- am I grateful that I was baptized into this gloriously tremendous faith!

As you all know, my Dad was recently diagnosed with Stage Four terminal Cancer just two months ago. (It's so hard for me to say that... wow).
Throughout this difficult time, I have doubted my faith. I admit it. I am not proud of doubting it...but it did happen.
I was told by a very wise individual, that I should "explore my options," and that if it wasn't right for me... so be it. I knew in my heart that I wanted to explore just a little bit.... just to see if anything else felt different to me- even better.

I know this for fact now.
When I am in a different church- I don't feel the same...
When I am in the Mormon Church- I don't feel the same.
When I am in a Christian Church- I don't feel the same.
When I am in a Methodist Church- I don't feel the same.
....

When I am in my parish of Corpus Christi- I feel like I belong there, and I feel God with me.
That says a lot, too. When I denied my faith a few years ago when this hellacious process was just beginning with my Dad's kidney failure, I remember feeling so alone- so empty. But then I attended Mass again... and it was as if my broken, torn heart was sewn up by God's tremendous love. The piece of me that was missing... never actually was- it was just breaking without God and the Holy Spirit in my life and my heart.

I have been a Catholic for almost 13 years now (come this Easter Sunday). I am a Catholic, and I am PROUD to proclaim my faith.
It is a part of me, and will forever be such. I hope that I never shy away from my faith again... it just doesn't feel right.

This is me.... this is my faith.

With that thought in mind, I leave you with my favorite prayer of all time:

We believe in one God, the Father the Almighty
Maker of Heaven and Earth
Of all that is seen and unseen
We believe in one lord, Jesus Christ
The only son of God, Eternally begotten of the Father
God from God
Light from Light
True God from True God
Begotten not Made
One in being with the Father
Through Him, all things were made
For our sin, and for our salvation, He came down from heaven
By the power of the holy spirit, He was born of the virgin Mary
And became a Man.
For our sake, he was crucified under Pontious Pilot
He suffered, died and was buried.
On the third day, He rose again, in fulfillment of the scriptures.
He ascended into heaven, and is seated at the right hand of the Father.
He will come again in glory to judge the living and the dead,
And His kingdom will have no end.
He has spoken through the prophets.
We believe in one Holy, Catholic and Apostolic Church
We acknowledge one baptism, and the forgiveness of sins.
We look for the resurrection of the dead, and the life of the world to come.
Amen.

<3

-Wendy R. Berry

Saturday, April 16, 2011

What the Hell...?

God, I hate this...
This cycle.
This everyday feeling like I'm hopeless.
This... bullshit.
ALL OF IT.
I want it to end and just be done so badly. That he and we didn't have to suffer! But that can't happen.

Anti-Depressants.
The pills that make me numb-minded and bodied... forcing me to smile. Leaving me with an empty soul, and no hope...
Do you think that I like feeling like that? That life is so damn shitty right now that I have to take them in the first place?! HELL NO!
....
Do you care? Do you see?
Or did you never care, and just act like you do?
Well damn it... the act is up.
I want someone to freakin' care!
Actually give a DAMN about how much this is killing me inside and out.
Mentally and physically.
Emotionally.
Spiritually.
GOD....

Is that so much to ask?!?

Friday, April 15, 2011

All I Really Want...

Is to be happy again.
Plain and simple, no more, no less.
Back to the way that I used to be.
Full of life... full of energy
HAPPY.
....
This freakin' SUCKS.
And I feel as though NO ONE cares.
Prove me wrong, and I will love you forever.
But it's really hard to convince me at this point on...



-"Callie"

Update, and Why I'm Relaying in June!

So I'm updating everyone on my Dad Bear's condition, and a bit of WHY I am choosing to participate in the Relay for Life in 2 months!
It's been hard.... dealing with seeing him go through so much everyday. Bear is currently suffering from Stage four terminal esophageal cancer, that has spread to his liver. It's been a day to day challenge.

What the hardest thing for me to do, is tell people how long he has to live when they ask. It takes every ounce of my being to say to them "The doctors have given him three to six months... if that" and then to mention that it'll be 2 months already, on the 28th of this month.

I'm Relaying for him.... I have known individuals with cancer, but I've never dealt with a loved one with it! So... with determination and fire in my heart, I started my team, "Bear's Angels."
I didn't just start it for him, however. I started it so that no one ever has to be alone. I did it to bring awareness to everyone who has cancer- in my community, and the world. No one wants to hear the words "I/You/He/She has cancer." No...

My goal is to end all of that! :-) With the raised awareness and support, someday cancer WILL Be stomped out, and terminated.
"All Work, Little Play.... ALL for Relay!"
-Bear's Angels theme quote.
<3
-Wendy R. Berry

Thursday, April 14, 2011

Bear's Photoshoot. :-)






These are just a FEW of the images from my photoshoot with Meredith, that I had done just for my Dad, Bear. :)
I thought it would be a great surprise for him, and you can imagine his shock when I made prints! :) I'm happy. Today is a good day.
That's all for now! Hope you like the pictures... I had a blast having Mere chat with me, and do her shoot. =] <3

-Wendy R. Berry

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

Behind That Smile- A Poem that a Friend of Mine Wrote. :)

"Behind this innocent smile,
Lies another feeling,
Behind this laughing girl,
Lies someone healing.

She feels so selfish,
Acts like she's insane,
Only to hide,
The depression and pain.

Tears seem neverending,
When no ones around,
False feelings stop working,
As she hits the ground.

Happy isn't real,
Just a fabricated lie,
Depression takes over,
She doesn't know why.

Lifes almost perfect,
Yet sadness is still there,
She's so confused,
Why can't she care?

She isn't heartless,
Just hurting alot,
Lies are easy,
When it's all you've got."

Courtney Elizabeth Wilson

Wow, can this girl write! :-) I mean, really. As a fellow poet and song lyricist, I mean that from my heart. This spoke to me on many, many volumes. I've been there. I've felt exactly like this girl. Most don't know about my past... the struggles that have been thrown to me, and to my family as well.
Speaking of family...
Bear had a pretty good day today. It was a dialysis day, so of course he wasn't on his A-Game... but hey. I'll take moments as they come to us. He had some difficulty breathing, but some good ol' morphine took care of that. (Thank GOD). :) That's all for now.
More updates soon- I promise. I may even add pictures from my photoshoot... =] <3

-Wendy R. Berry

Where the Heck do the Days go in the Week?!

Seriously! It's already freakin' hump day (Wednesday), and Sunday feels like it was only yesterday!
Good lord...
I hate how time feels like it's getting shorter, rather than longer... it's not fun. It's going to be May before I know it, and then Summer 2011! (That I am somewhat excited for).

I have jazz a bit later today. JOY.
I have another gig next week, too. the 18th. Super excited for that one. It should be a good time.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OLVLpT5w4Yc&feature=related (BEST song ever right here... it's my favorite, and what I sometimes wish someone would tell me... but that's a huge dream). I just want to be found... to know that I'm not alone right now. Is that too much to ask?!

Well- that's about all for now, everyone. I will get you all up to speed more later on. <3

-Wendy R. Berry

Saturday, April 9, 2011

Is this Truly My Reality? Why Can't it be a Frickin' Dream? WHY!?

I don't get it.
Part of me feels like... I'm losing myself completely.
Another part of me hopes that I'm not, and reassures that I'm completely over-reacting.

What am I supposed to feel, now that everything is getting worse so much faster than expected?
Sad? Depressed? Angry? Angsty? Pissed off?
How about all five, plus more!!
....
I don't even know who to rely on anymore... it's not like anyone will listen to me anyhow. Do they even care?
I hate feeling so damn alone...
I need someone... someone to tell me that it's going to be alright-to hug me when I feel like crumbling down and crying.

Ugh. Let me welcome sleep. It feels like that's where I get most comfort from all the hellacious events, lately. Hopefully I will be feeling better in the morning... maybe Mass will do me some good. (Even though I AM pissed at God right now).
<3

-Wendy R. Berry

God's Angel- An Aspie Girl Original April 2011

This switches between "she" and "I." I did that on purpose. :)
<3 Hope you enjoy!



-Wendy R. Berry



God's Angel- A song by Wendy Renee- (Re Edited) April 2011



She sits around, her life so confusing

Silently asking God why

Silently she cries... ooooh oh

But one day that all changed

Her life, rearranged

Suddenly things became more clear

God spoke with her, telling her

"There is nothing to fear, my dear"



(Chorus)

So for you She will live

And for you She will die

She will get through this pain

And she will not cry, No she won't cry, won't cry (ooh whoah)

Her life can seem like it's in entwined in a tangle

But then she remembers

That She's God's Angel

(End Chorus)



She wants to make things right

So she prays to you tonight, yeah tonight

She loves her Father, he is her life and her light

God She can promise, somehow She'll make this right!

You are good, you are great

She talks to you everyday

Even when it is late

You have taught her that all things can be achieved

You have taught her everything that I could not have believed



(Repeat Chorus 1X)



You get her through the moments, good and bad

You are her God, you are all hers, and she is glad!

To the heavens she loudly sings

Held up high by your heavenly wings.

I am Your Angel.....

I am your princess

You are the one I call to

When I am in distress



I'm your Angel

Yeah yeah- you're my King

Oh Lord- to you I will sing

I am your Angel!



(Fade out)

Friday, April 8, 2011

I need to Know This Much...

Dear God,

Do you even care anymore?
DID you ever care?

I know that it's complicated sometimes, but lately- when I've needed to vent the most... it's like you've turned your shoulder against this whole thing.
It hurts. It's pissing me off.... and ugh. Really?

I'm sorry- but damn it... I need you right now. I need to know that you're with me. You know what happened tonight?
My dad threw up when I got home from my concert... threw up! He never does that... and it wasn't the morphine that did it to him, either.

Dad's getting sicker. It's killing me, God. I feel helpless. What the hell am I SUPPOSED to do?!?
...
I don't know anymore... I really don't.

-WRB

With Missed Opportunities, Come Great Ones! :)

So Bear can't make it to my Jazz Band Gig tonight...
BUT it's alright. You know why?

1.) God has provided sooo much for us already! I am so blessed to just spend my DAYS with him!

2.) I have another Jazz Gig on the 18th of this month. At 7:30. He told me that he'll shoot hard with that one.
:)

Overall: I'm going to rock it tonight... and play great, just for him- as if he were in the crowd. <3
I love you, Daddy Bear! :)

-Wendy R. Berry

I Hate Not Knowing What to Title a Story....

Yes.... I'm at it again. Another story idea has come into my mind! But this time, I don't know what to flipping title it as!

-WRB



Everything after that night changed for me... and it wasn't going to end anytime soon.


Natalia Fitzpatrick was only ten years old when her mother died in a horrible house fire. Now, seven years later, she is living the average life of any teenage girl. Her aunt and uncle provide for her needs as best as possible, and she has almost flawless grades. Sounds like the perfect life, right?



Wrong. Soon Natalia begins to have visions, and vivid dreams of events to come. Visions so graphic, that she believes in her heart for them to be real. What Natalia comes to realize, is that she's a member of a group of psychics, dating back to centuries ago. Her mother Miranda was a Medium... now she herself has the gift.



But not everyone is so welcoming to this. With her new powers forcing her to make tough decisions, Natalia has someone following her... and he won't stop until he has her captured.



-WRB

(I know it sounds corny, but come ON! It has potential)! ;)

Update! (Yet again)

Hello to everyone!

Guess what? It's 6:40 in the morning, and I currently cannot fall back asleep. Ha. Gotta LOVE that.

Dad's at dialysis... and I'm really hoping that he doesn't have to get taken off of it early today, because he's sounding pretty miserable, and that would just make him even more-so.

I have a gig tonight for Jazz Band! HECK YES, bud! I'm super psyched. The performance starts at 7, and of COURSE I have to show up at 6:30 in all snazzy black. I'm super excited! :) Even though I WILL be playing 10 charts.... oyvey. ;P Oh well! I love playing, and playing Gospel John (My fave out of all 10) makes it ALL worth it! :)

GUESS WHAT??? :D (BEST NEWS OF THE WEEK)....
BEAR MAY BE GOING!
That's right....
If he can take enough pain meds, and is feeling up to the challenge, he told me he'd be there... listening to me perform with my TVCC College Jazz Band. YES! :D <3 (Thank you, God)! =]

I'm happy, in case you hadn't noticed?
;)
Anyway....
Yes. It's early this morning, and I will leave an update to let you all know what's up and where.
Love you all very much!

-Wendy R. Berry

Thursday, April 7, 2011

We All "Fall Down" Sometimes...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OLVLpT5w4Yc

That is a must-hear song... one of my favorites. (It's a One-Republic song... and describes how I feel right now).

I feel so alone, lately.. as if I can't do this. It's a tough battle and cycle that we're going through as a family. Bear got his first dose of morphine yesterday... and it is now 1:30 in the AM. Can I sleep? No... I should be, however. I have a gig in a day! I should be flipping ecstatic!
I need to get some sleep so I'm not so out-of-it. *sighs*
Am I stressing? Yes.
Am I worried? Yes.
Can I control what happens? Well... no. But sometimes, I wish that I could. The days feel like they're getting shorter, rather than the long, full days that they used to be.

I feel useless... hopeless... empty and broken. So alone! I love my dad so much it's ridiculous. I want to cry... but that may just be my emotions. My world IS "crashing down..." it's just a matter of who will find me.
There's only so much that I can handle sometimes... and I need to know that I'm not alone, right now. I've been so strong... I'm always the one to stay strong. I've finally broke. I will keep smiling, however. As everyone knows- a smile can cover so much.... <3

I'm actually going to try going to bed. Hopefully tomorrow is a better day... I cherish every one that I spend with my Daddy. I know that he doesn't have much longer to live in my heart.... so I'm trying to cherish EVERY second that I possibly can. I love him that much.

Take care, everyone. Sweet Dreams,

-Wendy R. Berry

Wednesday, April 6, 2011

Dearest Former History Professor of Mine....

http://www.truthmagazine.com/archives/volume39/GOT039104.html

You sure you want to challenge the fact that- I do, indeed know what I'm talking about when it comes to Islam? HA. Yeah.
FACT: The Prophet Mohammad DID have seizures during his visions, as he suffered from epilepsy.
Fact: My history teacher from high school was correct in his teaching of this subject, and you ARE an opinionated, overly-egotistical jerk.

Don't try to make ME look like the dumbass when you sir, have to get your facts straight, as well. Don't be that history professor that makes me second-guess my major... just don't. Because at this point, it won't work!
I WILL go on to study history... and unlike you, I will look at everything from ALL aspects... rather than just a very opinionated single theory.
Have a fantastic time..... I know that I won't be taking another class from you again, if otherwise absolutely necessary.

Ahhh. I feel SO much better now. :) You'd have to know the whole story, people... but let's just say that I was called a dumbass in front of my whole history class since I had "No idea what the hell I was talking about," and based my opinion (which was in fact, FACT) off of a "Dumb-ass history teacher who doesn't know his stuff." Yeah. THINK AGAIN. ;)

Love always,

"Callie"

Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Historical Fiction... I WILL Write You Successfully!


I will, dang it... if it's the last thing I do! :)

I've done it before... I can do it again now.
Plus, this should be a fun story to write.
Though, I'm debating which year to set it.... 1962, or 1968? If it was set in 68, I would have to do some research about Vietnam, AND a ton of researching on the assassination of MLK Jr. and how the Civil Rights Movement officially ended.... But hey! It would mean a challenge! Which I LOVE taking on!

BUT... it's a story of all epic-proportions... I can FEEL IT! :) When I get an idea, there is noooo stopping me!
I'm thinking of naming it "Burnin' Glory" or something like that... but I'm not positive, yet.

Here's my preview for it:

Sarah-Lynn Bradford is just a typical teenage woman growing up in the 1960's in Georgia. She has her good and bad hair days, a life to die for, good grades, and a love for writing. BUT Sarah-Lynn also has a secret: She's in love with a black man.

Secretly meeting with him after her parents are asleep every other night, Sarah puts her safety and life on the line. If anyone were to find out her secret, she'd be shunned from High Georgian Society, and Tyrone would be lynched to death- possibly by Sarah's father.

But everything changes when Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. is assassinated, causing pure controversy.

Can Sara-Lynn and Tyrone finally receive the freedom to love each other as they wish without the ominous threat of persecution, or will it always be this way?

My Poem for my Dad.... "Endless Love."

I've written a poem JUST for Bear... that I hold near and dear to my heart.
I hope you all enjoy it.

God made the sun, wind and flowers
Our Lord, has mighty and tremendous powers.
Nineteen years ago, you were deeply in love
So much so, that God whispered
To a beautiful white dove
And He decided... to send you a little girl from above.

Growing up, you told me that I was your Angel
Sent to you up from heaven
You told me that I was your everything
That my voice was beautiful...
When I would always sing.
My laughter as loud as a bell's ring.

Dad, you have taught me to be brave and strong
Now, I'm finding that the time has come
It's time for me to fly, and move along.
Words cannot describe how grateful I am to know you
Each and everyday, I pray for just one moment longer...
Having no idea- that the prayers have made me stronger.

But Dad, that's not the only thing that's made me strong.
Your compassion, your smile and your Endless Love
Have been so much.... enough for me
That when it's time.... I know someday I will join you up above.
Thank you......for always being a part of my life for so long.

-Wendy Renee Berry
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With that in mind, I leave you with one other poem that I cherish. It wasn't written by me, but the words speak volumes.



"Cancer is so limited...
It cannot cripple love.
It cannot shatter hope.
It cannot corrode faith.
It cannot eat away peace.
It cannot destroy confidence.
It cannot kill friendship.
It cannot shut out memories.
It cannot silence courage.
It cannot reduce eternal life.
It cannot quench the Spirit."

Callie... I Have a New Nickname!

Really?!?
Thanks, Bear! I feel soooo loved! ^_^ (Note the slight sarcasm).

Yup!
Since my hair is 4 shades of color (Brown, dark brown, red and blonde) I am officially nicknamed "Callie," which is short for Calico. Apparently that's what my hair looks like to my dad... though he still says it's "wicked and looks like a million bucks." Great. :) Ugh. Let's hope today is a good one... I hate this being depressed crap. ;-) I'll update everyone in a few hours. I'm not awake enough yet TO update anything.... other than my new given nickname!

Take care, everyone!

Mucho ,

-"Callie"

Monday, April 4, 2011

If You ONLY Knew...

Warning....
Don't read this unless you want to hear me rant... seriously.
You have been warned.

Fancy me this:

Anti-Depressants. Why do doctors call them anti-depressants, if oddly enough you take them- and they don't do a damn bit of good? It's just a random thought...

No, not really. I'm supposed to be happy, damn it! Not this... mess that I have been tonight., and every other night for that matter. I'm perfectly fine most of the day, and then the little things just start getting to me. Screwing up with attempting to do something around the house. My dad suffering when I can't do a thing about it to help him. Mom in one of her 'bad moods' because I screwed up somehow... (Apparently I do that often... either that, or she's just in a funk).
Damn, this cycle with Bear sucks! I'm not kidding... it seriously and literally sucks. On top of it all, I'm just pissed off at organized religion right now... beyond. WHY do you need a religion to prove that you believe in God?

Why do Christians feel this need to go to church EVERY Sunday? It's usually just for freakin' publicity, anyway in most cases. THINK about it! "Oh, I have to go to church today because everyone is expecting me to be there..." or "Oh my gosh! Is Marcus going to be there? I have to look my best to impress him! I really, truly do! If he likes religious girls... I'm going to try to become that way!"
No! Bull crap. Oh, and what's up with most of all of them being homophobic in some way? Being lesbian, gay or bisexual is NOT a sin, damn it. They are NOT going to burn in hell. It's just life. If you fall in love with a member of the same sex... how is that a crime? Ugh. It makes me shake my head every time.

I've come to this conclusion! I don't need all of that... bullsh*t. I really, truly don't. I don't need to go to a Mosque, Synagogue, Mass, or any other religious site to prove that I love God with all my heart and know that I'll meet him someday. No, no. I just don't. I'm sick and tired of trying to find an answer, when I know in my heart, mind, and soul that he exists, and will forgive me for all the wrong-doing that I've done in my past. I'm human... I'm going to screw up. Doesn't it say in the Bible that God forgives all sinners? Well... if that's truly the case, I'm on safe ground. Though I am a bit ticked at the man... Why the hell is He making my dad go through all of this? In case He didn't know already... he's suffering- BIG time. And in a lot of pain.

The answer to THAT question will be interesting to try to find out someday.... (That is if I even make it to heaven). On that happy note, I leave you with this quote. It is literally one of my favorites:
"I'd rather live my life as if there is a God, and die and find out there isn't, than live my life believing that there isn't a God, and die to find out there in fact, is."

Alright, now that I've said that- I feel much better. If it makes me sound like a total, complete bitch- I'm sorry. I'm really not... I'm just very opinionated, and am starting to discover myself in a whole new level of understanding. I fully intend to always hold my "sacred, wonderfully sweet" heart, mind, and soul. Bear loves me. My mom loves me. My friends in our community love me. GOD loves me! What more can I ask for?

Absolutely nothing. Yes, I've had my rollercoaster of emotions for the past few months now, but hey- it's life. And I have to lean on God, my family, and Que Sera Sera. Whatever will be... will be.

Love you all... I hope you have a fantastic night.

-Wendy R. Berry

Dialysis Day Update #2- 4/4/11

Update 2 for the day! ^_^

The highlighting of my hair was a success- I didn't do an all out blonde (because it would damage my hair massively), thus, I had small highlights added. Next weekend we plan on re-doing it, this time with more chunkier highlights, so I gradually BECOME a full-blonde. It was very time comsuming, but also very worth it, because according to Bear, "You look like a million bucks." (He says this and it's sweet, because my hair is like 3 different shades right now... brown, red, and blonde). But, I still appreciate his comment! :) <3

Hospice visit went well... Bear's adapting to everyone pretty dang well, now. They are ordering a "Comfort Kit" for him this week... Which consists of pain meds to ease his suffering... so he doesn't hurt so much all of the time. I know that eventually the pain meds won't do much for him.... but I'm happy for now! They will hopefully prolong his life! It makes me smile with relief.

Well, that's all for now, everyone! I love you all soooo much, and thank you for your unending support! I'm off to go work on my Relay for Life stuff... still have to get the word out there for "Bear's Angels."

Take care!

-Wendy R. Berry

Dialysis Day Update #1- 4/4/11

Oh, an early morning that I greet with a smile. :) Bear is at dialysis this morning, and I can't go to Apple-Bin with him and mom like I usually do... BUT- it's for good reasoning.

Growing up before I moved to Ontario Oregon, I was a full out complete toe-head blond little girl. It was insane... the color was almost white. I maintained that color until we MOVED to Oregon... then it kind of faded on its own. Ever since 7th grade, though... it's been lightening back up- just a tad bit. But not to the shade that I want exactly- thus... I've dyed my hair (tons and tons of times).

Today, I get to have it dyed (again), Bear's favorite hair color for me: Blonde. He's always loved when I've had that shade of hair, and now.. I'm going all out, getting rid of the nasty red that's been my hair color, and I am becoming a blonde. I'm actually quite excited! This may be the last time that he sees me this way... and I want it to be special. :) Well- enough ranting for now... I will update you all later after Dad's home from dialysis and I'm home from Jazz Band. Hospice is coming in today for a check-up... I'll be sure to mention how that goes as well! :)

Love always,
-Wendy R. Berry

Sunday, April 3, 2011

Jesus is loving and... I get the Point! (Tale of a "Mass"ive Event).

Hey! :)

So mom and I went to Mass today... together. HA.... it was great. Of course we were worried about leaving Bear all alone, but he re-assured us that he'd be just fine, and to enjoy ourselves. Thus- we attended. After a VERY (and I drag this out on purpose) long Homily, the Choir began to sing a song about Jesus knowing everything, and being forgiving. Anyway- Mom and I attempted (quite well) to sing it. Then you can ONLY imagine what the choir did. They started it ALL over again. I'm sorry but at that point, I just cracked up laughing... I mean seriously! It's already 4 verses long- and you have to sing it all frickin' over again? No... go to a different hymn for cripes sake... or just let us... oh, I don't know... sit? Quietly- for maybe 2-3 minutes? I got the stink-eye from a lot of Parishioners, but I seriously don't care. That was insane. And totally laugh-worthy.
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Ahhh yeah. I love Masses. I really, truly do. Bear's been alright... he's a true fighter. I love him with all of my heart, and he's a HUGE part of my life. Without Bear, I would be incomplete. Usually, someone would say without God, they're life is incomplete. With my dad, it's just about the same. Now, I'm not comparing to God- because lets face it... he can NOT be compared to... but I love him about just as much. *Lord, forgive me for saying such a thing.* :) That was a joke, people.... kind of like Larry the Cable Guy saying "Lord please forgive me for that," after telling a really hilariously inappropriate joke. ANYWAY.

Today has been good thus far. I'm grateful for signing up for this 3 years ago (WOW)! It's my life, and a way to keep loved ones and individuals who care informed on what is happening in the life of the Berry Family. Take care, everyone... I'm going to scoot and go shopping! Ode to Joy- it's Walmart... on a Sunday. I'm going to die... HA.

-Wendy R. Berry

Saturday, April 2, 2011

Need You (WRB Original Composition)

To the ones that I cherish,

This song is one that I have written... that highly, highly relates to my life right about now. I think you'll notice that when you read the lyrics. Yes- that's another thing you may not have known up until now... I'm a song-writer/poet. :) I'm not outstanding... but I don't think I'm horrible, either. I guess I'll know how I am someday.
Need You [Fall Apart] is a song that's meant to be sad. (Plus I wrote it earlier when I was feeling a bit depressed). I hope you enjoy it!

-WRB

Need You- [Fall Apart]- (Written & Composed by Wendy R. Berry, April 2011)

All alone
The feeling of pain
Brings her to sharp reality
What could this be?

*Chorus*
She's losing faith
Losing her ground
Why is she lost
And cannot be found?
You are out there
She knows it's true
Don't you see...
She Needs You
*End Chorus*

She doesn't know
Feeling as though she can't breathe
So confused, so alone
It's all falling apart
Leaving her with a broken heart

(-Repeat Chorus 1 x)

Tick, tock
Time is quickly fading
Tick tock
Memories never disintegrating

(-Repeat Chorus last time)

La la la
How did it end up this way?
La la la
She can't find the words to say
La la la
She just knows what is true....
She Needs You.

It's Pathetic... When I have so much free time... (Here goes the Rant).

Yes... believe me- I speak the truth. Of course most of the day I am helping mom with Bear's care, but when he's sleeping... I am usually watching a movie, drawing, or writing. Oh boy, Writing.... it's such a huge passion of mine. I guess you can say that I've been a writing muse since I was about 13 years old, but discovered it in my heart when I was 17, and a junior in high school. That year between Honors English and History, I had to write a TON of essays- and found out that I loved it! How ironic is that?!?

Seriously. In middle School, I was homeschooled (7th and 8th grade.... attended OMS /FMS part-time for Band, Language Arts, and Choir). My dad AND my language arts teacher, Mrs. Snyder, both got me into writing. She jumpstarted me with short-stories and such- but it was my DAD, Bear, who really drove me into writing. As a 13 year old teenager, I hadn't really had interest in history prior to my home-schooling. It was just another subject that I couldn't really get into. HA! Oh my heck. Would that all change! My dad introduced to me, what was known as "Western Civilization." I caught onto it right away! At OMS, we had learned briefly about Nomads and the Paleolithic age. BUT we hadn't gotten into history quite like this! Athens! Greece! Sparta! The Parthenon and Agropolis/Polis! I fell in LOVE.... literally. My dad knew this, and not only did he ask me in depth questions that would make me THINK... he had me write essays for him after I read a few chapters- based upon what I had learned.

I remember once- he had assigned me this: "Tell me about the early Greeks. What was the Polis, and how did it originate? Did it have an impact on the life of the Grecians? If so... how?"

YEAH... It sounds like a question that I received for my essays from Mr. Fitch (HA) Junior & Senior Year! My dad never let me back down easily... oh, no. :) I remember studying my BUTT off for that test, and somehow winding up with an A-. I still don't know how I did it... except hard work, determination- and interest. Eh. I guess this is why History is my chosen second major. (Yes- I'm one of those freaks who's planning on/working on double-majoring).

I am ranting here... which is nice, for once. :) I have to admit... it's nice. I guess I should've said that this blog is for my dad and I... since I write about myself (and my family) a bit, too. Ugh- saying that makes me feel selfish- but hey... :)

Take care, friends. Cherish every moment that you live... because you only get to live that moment once.

"Don't cry because it's over... smile because it has happened!" :)

A Better Day, Brings Better Expectations! :)

Today has been a LOT better thus far! Thank GOD for good pain killers, and caring professionals willing to stop by our house and just talk, love, and take care of him. XL Hospice is no fun when they come in... but I know in my heart that they're helping him throughout this process- they're helping US- my mom and I.

It is wonderful that on Monday, Wednesday and Friday that Bear can go OUT to the Apple-Bin (our local cafe) for lunch after his dialysis treatments. It's good for the soul- and such wonderful family time. When he isn't there... you know it's pretty bad. This process has been such a trial... but I know in my heart that it is all happening for a reason. I don't know what that reason is, and what God has planned... but I know that it will be tremendous once my dad crosses over and into his loving, caring arms. We will be alright too.... I know that we will. <3

:) On this happy note, I'm going to head out to my best friend's for awhile. It's nice to have an escape for a few hours... even if it is only that long, and speeds past. Take care, everyone- and God Bless!

-Wendy R. Berry

Friday, April 1, 2011

Good Days, Bad Days... Ugh. What a Rollercoaster!

Welcome to the cycle of Cancer. By the way- if I could murder cancer, I would... I seriously, literally would.

Bear isn't getting any better, and his disease is just dominating his whole body.... I've had my share moments of crying, and tonight was one of those nights. It's so hard when he has a hard time breathing, and starts to talk to us about what we'll have to do once he leaves us behind.

I have been soooo angry at God- but I know that I am wrong for doing so. God is all loving, all forgiving. I shouldn't hate him for this. Maybe there's a justifiable reason as to why my mom and I are going through this.... why BEAR is going through this. I just don't know. I guess I have to lean more on my faith, and not my understanding right now. Insha'Allah. It's in His hands... not mine.

"Trust in me, your Lord with all of your heart; and lean
not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Me, and I will direct your path."
-Proverbs 3:5-6

I have a jug for Relay for Life and my team, Bear's Angels up at the Apple-Bin. I really, REALLY have to start going on fundraising, so it was a tremendous start. It's wonderful to know that the whole community (that knows us) supports us, loves us, and is there no matter what. Joel Williams. Mike Fitch. Marsha Strange. Jennifer Jennings. Theresa Fabricius. And SOOOO many others. They're there for us.... and it means the world to me.

BLAH. I have to quit being negative. If there is ONE thing that Bear has taught me, it is to persevere... no matter what the circumstance may be. He's such a blessing- and I'm grateful that I get to spend the time with him that I have. :)
I love you, Dad.

So here I am, signing off for the night. I love you all, and may God Bless You. Salaam Alaikum. :-)

-Wendy R. Berry